HSI Newsletter February 2013
A mighty pain to love it is,
And ’tis a pain that pain to miss;
But of all pains, the greatest pain
It is to love, but love in vain. ~ Abraham Cowley
Love is one of the most complex and intense emotions known to humankind. Through literature, poetry, music and movies love has been addressed for centuries. Every of it has been explored from heavenly delight to rock bottom. For two centuries homeopaths have categorized a number of emotions, and found natural medicines to balance them. The beauty of homeopathy is that it can help soothe a broken heart, reduce the anxiety of lost new love and lessen grief from the death of a loved one. Homeopathy is the study of body, heart, mind and soul. Homeopathic treatment has been very effective in re-establishing a balanced mental-emotional state, without side effects.
The love that hurts most – unrequited love
Unrequited love has caused many tragedies which have even led to suicides at times. When the emotion is too strong, life just doesn’t seem to be the same any more.
Homeopathy is wonderfully specific about sadness or symptoms as a result of unrequited love. The goal of the homeopathic interview is to find out how the person was affected. The homeopathic practitioner asks to understand the following: Does this person feel deceived, sad, suicidal, or embarrassed? Do they brood about their love, can’t stop thinking about it? Are they looking for revenge? Does this affect their sleep? What kind of limitation does this emotional state create?
The homeopathic Repertory lists symptoms in rubrics and points to homeopathic remedies that assist in reducing the suffering or cure the symptoms. Rubrics used for unrequited love would be listed in the mind section of the book (or software):
Ailments from disappointed love is a rubric that speaks to feeling sick because of disappointment in love. There are many remedies in this rubric, found to be especially effective are the following highlighted remedies: Aurum, Ignatia, Natrum Muriaticum, Platina, Phosphoric Acid and Staphysagria.
If there is a specific condition caused by disappointed love the practitioner will look at a different rubric, like for example the loss of taste as mentioned by Charles Schultz:
Mouth, Taste, loss of taste listing some of the same remedies that addressed disappointed love (see above): Aurum, Natrum Muriaticum, Phosphoric Acid and Staphysagria. In the case that someone lost their taste after unrequited love, one of these remedies would be chosen to get the taste back and feel better emotionally.
If someone has felt anxiety with heart palpitations caused by disappointment, there is another place in the Repertory to find a remedy:
Heart & circulation, palpitation heart, love disappointment, from Aurum, Cactus, Ignatia, Natrum Muriaticum and Phosphoric Acid.
In the worst case scenario of someone dealing with suicidal thoughts, a referral to a therapist along with a well-fitting homeopathic remedy can help. In this case, the rubric to look at is:
Mind, suicidal disposition, love disappointment, from Antimonium Crudum, Aurum, Belladonna, Causticum, Hyosciamus, and Staphysagria are remedies to be considered. Aurum, which is a remedy made from gold, has been a long-standing homeopathic remedy to help with all kinds of love disappointments and grief bearing suicidal thoughts.
Unrequited love does not die; it’s only beaten down
to a secret place where it hides, curled and wounded
For some unfortunates, it turns bitter and mean,
and those who come after pay the price
for the hurt done by the one who came before.
~ Elle Newmark,
The Book of Unholy Mischi
And perhaps – as the excerpt above from Elle Newmark suggests – someone has become bitter and mean. In this case a homeopathic practitioner would look to this rubric:
Mind, anger, love disappointment, from Hyosciamus, Lachesis and Natrum Muriaticum are remedies to help with dissolving the anger.
Now, how does one know which of these multiple remedies is the right one to choose? In homeopathic practice usually the most effective remedy is the one that can treat the greatest number of symptoms experience by the affected person.
Most of us have experienced a loss of love at one time or another. It might have been through a break-up or through death. It is one of the hardest emotional issues to get over and many spend thousands of dollars in therapy to recover. Some suffer silently (Ailments for silent grief) and some swear to get even (Anger from disappointed love). Still others push the hurt down deep (Ailments from suppressed grief) and soothe themselves through overeating, alcohol or drugs.
If the lost love stems from a parent passing away, we might look at the rubric:
Mind, death, ailments from, parents or friends, of Aurum-Muriaticum- Natronatum, Causticum, Ignatia, Natrum Muriaticum, Nitricum Acidum or Phosphoric Acid are remedies to be considered.
If the person suffers his or her grief silently we may use the rubric: Mind, love, disappointment, unhappy, ailments from, agg., grief, with silent Aurum-Muriaticum Natronatum, Ignatia, Natrum Muriaticum or Phosphoric Acid are remedies that could solve the situation.
The above examples demonstrate how homeopathic treatment can help a person to recover their equilibrium with a natural and effective homeopathic remedy. The key to selecting the most effective remedy is a thorough case intake by a professional homeopath, individualized treatment and the tailoring of the remedy to the person’s individual symptoms. A homeopathic practitioner has the tools to assist in healing a broken heart and speed the recovery of unrequited or lost love.